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April 20, 2017 at 10:18 pm #1901AnonymousInactive
Dear ladies, sorry for a long post. Looking for inputs from experienced mums.
My dd is 4.4 yrs. Me and my hubby are very happy and feel our lil world is complete with her. We are both highly career oriented and work full time. Till now we never planned for a second baby because we were so occupied with our first one and also use to feel that we want to dedicate ourselves completely with our full attention to our dd.
But off late(2/3 months) back our dd has started asking for a sibling.
She is extremely close to both me and hubby. And she is otherwise a very warm, loving, talkative, smart, extrovert and a social, happy baby. It is because of her we have started feeling guilty and feel like going on for a second one just so that she doesn’t feel lonely going forward.
My question is, Is the age gap of about 5 yrs is it too much for siblings? Do they get along well? Because the main intend to plan the second one is for her companionship and happiness only. Or this is just a phase and she will get over it soon?
Looking forward for advice.
Thanks!April 20, 2017 at 10:19 pm #1902AnonymousInactive
Priti Dey: They get along well beautifully. Me and my brother have age gap of 8 years. Me and him are very closeApril 20, 2017 at 10:19 pm #1903AnonymousInactive
Rumi Ray: It’s a good age to be a loving caring big sister. Two very young kids can be overwhelming for parents. 5 years gap will make them friends plus younger one will look up for guidance. Less gap causes more conflictsApril 20, 2017 at 10:20 pm #1904AnonymousInactive
Pooja Abhishek Dubey: Having a second baby should be your decision . Doing it under pressure wint wrk i belive . 5 yrs gap is ok . I hv a gap of almost 5yrs between my kids . Elder one very caring and protective towards her younger brother . Also age dont defy siblings . You hv to gv both an equal attention .April 20, 2017 at 10:20 pm #1905AnonymousInactive
Shina Prabhu: Don’t worry. I had my daughter now. My son is 9 yrs old. They get along so well. Good luck for your next baby.April 20, 2017 at 10:21 pm #1906AnonymousInactive
Aanchal Kapoor Mishra: I had my second one after 10 years so it’s a big gap between my daughter and son. Same as you we both are career oriented and full time working so at the insistence of my daughter we went for the second one. And she is like second mother to him and adore him very much, she does not feel bad when we give more focus to Baby. Also I had below reasons to keep this much gap:
1. Day care are very expensive here so sending two kids there is not worth doing a job then
2. I wanted my first one to be independent before I go for second.
3. I wanted to grow at my work and with kids it’s difficult to give undivided attention to ur work
4. Me and my husband loves travelling and exploring places, so we have visited lots of countries in last 4-5 yearsApril 20, 2017 at 10:21 pm #1907AnonymousInactive
Rashmi Wali: If reasons are strongly companionship and happiness, have u considered a pet?
Think having a second child sud be totally you and your partner’s call without coming under pressure.
Having said all that, me and my older brother are 5 years apart and can only say i m blessed to have him.April 20, 2017 at 10:21 pm #1908AnonymousInactive
Avantika Chaturvedi: I have two elder sisters – 8.5 years and 4.5 years age difference. The eldest is almost like a second Mom to me and second sister is my best friend.. so don’t worry about the relationship between siblings.. whatever age gap, they will have an awesome time 🙂April 20, 2017 at 10:22 pm #1909AnonymousInactive
Geetali Khatri: My younger daughter is almost 5yrs younger than my elder one! No worries. The elder kids help you take care of the baby!April 20, 2017 at 10:23 pm #1910AnonymousInactive
Asha Kiran: My elder boy is 8 and half and lil one is 10 months ! I was same didn’t think about second one as my elder one is bit hyper and want to give full time to him but when he turned 6 plus he keep asking for siblings ! Keep asking my many times a day then I thought about him that at least for kids sake at least 2 kids must in the house , no matter age difference ! Now both enjoy their company ! Happy together !April 20, 2017 at 10:23 pm #1911AnonymousInactive
Mua Aradhna Singh Gandhi: It’s an amazing gap…both will get to understand eachother very well… Go ahead.. 😉April 20, 2017 at 10:24 pm #1912AnonymousInactive
Rani Sunil: second child is magic not only for the first one, for you both…… age gap is perfect and all the best…. in future they share their happiness and worries with the sibling is the best thing you can do to the kids.( my mums said long ago when I had only one …… after 13 y difference we got the magic)April 20, 2017 at 10:24 pm #1913AnonymousInactive
Aparna Sundar: The gap between my elder one and younger one is also 5 years. 14 and 9. I also went through the same feeling. but this was the best decision.April 20, 2017 at 10:24 pm #1914AnonymousInactive
Aakanksha Kull Jaitly: My daughter is 9yrs old and my son is going to be 3 yrs now..!! Daughters are blessings and if ur first child is daughter u r really lucky. They are so caring and loving. I think its good to have this gap as per my experience I am very happy whenever my both kids are at home they play together and I can do my household chores. My son misses her when she goes to school.. they have very good bounding and I hope it remains like that. Touch wood.. you go ahead dnt think much..!! All the best.April 20, 2017 at 10:25 pm #1915AnonymousInactive
Thanu Elangovan: The age gap between both my boys is almost 5, this time frame between two was intentional … trust me it’s much easier .. pls go for another kid..
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